A Letter to C.E.M

corey thinker

I didn’t have the pleasure of birthing you. To tell the truth, I’m still not convinced pleasure is involved anywhere in the whole birthing process… Birthing something really actually scares me so I guess it was my good fortune that you came along at 13, fully ‘birthed’ …and potty trained ’cause I’m not sure I could’ve handled all that either! I’m a wimp, I know. I’m a little sad that I missed out on your cute toddler and elementary school years, but there’s still some cuteness left in you I think..! You know how my mother likes to say “we got him at 13” –it’s like your a puppy or something and I find that hilarious.

Pre-you I used to be really scared of teenagers……..but I’m pretty sure I’m cured now…! You were the change in my life that I never bargained for or imagined. As you’ve grown, so have I. You were definitely a bonus and a blessing- who else could have introduced me to my long lost musical love of Jack White?

corey les paul

Because of you I get the chance to pay forward every time my dad took the time to throw a ball or show me how to do something in the garage. Every time my mom took me to the store with her or stopped her housework to play a game.  I get to sign permission slips and play secretary and cheer leader and it’s really a cool job…this parent thing. Don’t get me wrong- things aren’t always rosy- you’ve seen me in action… tempers get short, patience is exasperated, but the three of us still make it work.

My favorite times now are sitting around with you and your dad laughing about some joke we’ve cobbled together that’s taken on a life of it’s own or finding ourselves on a random night playing his old mix tapes on a second hand stereo and laughing at how many times Metallica’s “Hit the Lights” comes up in the rotation…in multiple tapes…!

I apologize for telling you in jest that I spit in your drink the first night we met. I have a weird family- we like to mess with each other – and now you are a part of it for better or worse- you’re welcome. And I cherish your mother’s day card from this year. I have to say you’re the funniest and most clever kid I know- but I may be biased. Obviously I passed along my witty genes to you….oh…wait…!

My utmost wish for you is that you would Know God and Know you were loved by Him and by me. You crack me up in laughter and heart. My heart splits wide open because of you and then grows 3 sizes bigger just like the Grinch when I think of your past and future. And I wish you every happiness and good thing and opportunity to come your way. I pray that you get to pursue your dreams, that you become a good man like your dad and that one day maybe you’ll get to parent your own child through purpose or by chance and enjoy every minute just like I have.

corey water

I wrote that letter a while back and when I ran across it today and looked at the date- one year ago today– well I had to share… This weekend.. I have no words…. This boy… We are 10 days and counting until High School graduation… deep breaths… But in the past 72 hours we’ve seen him shine in his Senior band concert, step up to the plate learning how to rotate tires and walk down the aisle to profess Jesus as his Savior…!

My heart is full.


20 thoughts on “A Letter to C.E.M

    1. You’re welcome! I think it was destined to come out…! To share what another parent echoed this weekend- my heart was so full it was leaking out of my eyes..! He is a blessing to me in every way!


  1. This has got to rank up there as one of the most beautiful letters I’ve ever read. You are a wonderful ‘mom’ to Corey–credit in addition to his ‘birthing’ mom as she must be incredibly proud as well.
    You have taught me wonderful things about motherhood, Heather….even at my old age of 60!! I regret not seeing him walk the aisle, but offered many a prayer that God listened to as I asked Him to speak to Corey through the Spirit. Many folks have influenced him—but, you’re top shelf on the list!!


    1. Awww you’re making me blush…! Thanks for your steady encouragement through the years : ) And thanks most of all for all your prayers! ♥


  2. Heather, what a beautiful letter. What a cute “little” fellow. I am so proud of you and so proud of Corey. He has always been a super kid. Sweet, witty and very talented. I am so happy that you have the beautiful family you have and girl you have been a big influence on Corey I’m sure. Sunday was magnificent. I have seen you and Corey both grow these last couple of years and what a wonderful family. Charles and I are so proud to be a part of your extended family. You are all loved TREMENDOUSLY.


    1. Aww, thank you ♥♥♥ We love y’all too…! He is a cute little thing isn’t he? : ) My favorite picture is him with the water droplets. So sweet! I’m so glad Carl took lots of pictures when he was young!!!


  3. I LOVE this letter, Heather! He truly is a blessing to our family! I have also enjoyed being his “Grandma” and getting to watch him grow… at least since he was 13 “when we got him”! I missed the earlier years, but have really enjoyed these later years….all the football games (I’m here for the marching band….is there a football game going on?)…… all the band concerts (He really did shine at the Senior one last week — I just love his Senior project!)…… all the lunches and outings on Sunday to shop….. all the music you both have made together in church and on CDs (love them….I still have the one from last Christmas playing in my car) & all the other times we have been together! It has all been such a JOY! Last Sunday was so special when he accepted the Lord as his Savior. I had been praying that he would! I now pray that he will have a wonderful future and I can’t wait to see what he becomes when he finishes growing up! His Dad really did a great job raising him before we all met. (Way to go Dad…you did good!) He is a very special young man I LOVE that both the son & the Dad are in my life. My heart is Full as well.


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